tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post374628040762162435..comments2024-03-15T15:42:08.393-04:00Comments on Knatolee's World: MothersKnatoleehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-9138443790610545132013-05-16T06:34:02.140-04:002013-05-16T06:34:02.140-04:00Thank you! Everything worked out pretty well in th...Thank you! Everything worked out pretty well in the end. :)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-24003172008303924092013-05-16T06:33:43.588-04:002013-05-16T06:33:43.588-04:00I'm sorry you lost your Mom so young. :( Mothe...I'm sorry you lost your Mom so young. :( Mother's Day can be hard on so many people, for different reasons. I'm glad you had a great stepmother!!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-19190981082643758202013-05-16T06:32:45.297-04:002013-05-16T06:32:45.297-04:00Moms are so idealized! I think that makes it hard ...Moms are so idealized! I think that makes it hard on mothers, too. It's impossible to live up to societal standards of perfection. :)<br /><br />Thansk Jenny!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-81537739923985230872013-05-14T16:54:03.622-04:002013-05-14T16:54:03.622-04:00I was graced with what I call a "minimum mom&...I was graced with what I call a "minimum mom". She did as little as possible to fulfill her role as a parent, but she was far better than the mother you were raised by. My sympathies for the little girl you used to be. But then, that little girl grew up to be a wonderfully nurturing and loving woman and I call that being a Success!Ms Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03417670251423549014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-13808369399119954312013-05-14T11:05:44.005-04:002013-05-14T11:05:44.005-04:00Wow, I'm so sorry for what your mother put you...Wow, I'm so sorry for what your mother put you through. I can't imagine how hard it must have been growing up and living with the effects of that relationship. Thank you for sharing your story, especially on Mother's Day. I'm sure there are many other people out there who can relate.<br /><br />Mother's Day has always been a little hard for me as well, but not for the same reason. My mother passed away when I was five years old and I always think about how things would be today if she were still here. My dad remarried shortly after my mom passed away and my stepmother is wonderful and I'm so thankful for her. But I do always feel a bit conflicted on Mother's Day.Our Neck of the Woodshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00796487269192271170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-30076788336284086972013-05-14T08:52:20.952-04:002013-05-14T08:52:20.952-04:00I'm glad you wrote this post. We often hear ab...I'm glad you wrote this post. We often hear about less than ideal dads, but usually moms are presented as the person who will love and protect you when nobody else will. Sadly, that isn't always true. I think it must be much harder to have a difficult mother than a difficult father. In terms of your mother being unhappy to see you happy, I have met people like that and it is very disturbing to be around. I'm glad you met Gordon and found someone to love you.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816796977553847916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-47584596438032457942013-05-13T07:50:54.552-04:002013-05-13T07:50:54.552-04:00Thanks Claire!! Not to worry, I'm definitely o...Thanks Claire!! Not to worry, I'm definitely over the worst of being angry, but I get ticked at her on Mother's Day. :) ANd the second half of my life has been so much better. I don't have much to complain about these days. I feel pretty lucky!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-86791812750172904842013-05-13T07:46:58.869-04:002013-05-13T07:46:58.869-04:00Hey Natalie, if I wasn't just about to head of...Hey Natalie, if I wasn't just about to head off to work, I would've let the flood gates open after reading your story, but had to hold it together.......<br />We can't chose our parents unfortunately, but we can choose to a certain extent, the sort of person we grow up to be and you have turned out to be a wonderfully, caring person.<br /> From what I read your life is full of love and enjoyment in your surroundings, your farm , your animals, your hubby. and friends.... Not necessarily in that order, lol.<br />Anger is such a horrible thing to be caught up in, I hope that very soon you will feel ready to let it go and move on.<br /><br />Claire x<br />Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09742003349610251189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-70149418405272809482013-05-13T06:35:34.035-04:002013-05-13T06:35:34.035-04:00Oh, the stories Gordon tells me on days he's d...Oh, the stories Gordon tells me on days he's duty counsel in youth bail court. Just the saddest, saddest examples of parenting. :(Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-23650349186956398302013-05-13T06:34:57.714-04:002013-05-13T06:34:57.714-04:00THanks Cro! Someone wise once told me that parents...THanks Cro! Someone wise once told me that parents don't need to be perfect; they just need to be good enough. I really appreciate the peaceful life I have now!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-3127063736017767732013-05-13T06:33:20.542-04:002013-05-13T06:33:20.542-04:00I can forgive her but the other part definitely wo...I can forgive her but the other part definitely won't happen! :)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-65102737944444028252013-05-13T03:36:43.011-04:002013-05-13T03:36:43.011-04:00For what you have bin through, I admire you, Nat. ...For what you have bin through, I admire you, Nat. And I am sure the day will come, where you will be able to forgive your mom and think of her as the nicest mom you ever had.Sue and Williehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17353283764377099630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-39858993426194743922013-05-13T00:17:50.550-04:002013-05-13T00:17:50.550-04:00There's no exam for parenthood, nor much advic...There's no exam for parenthood, nor much advice. I seem to be reading more and more experiences like yours, it makes me even more grateful that mine was so very different. Still; I've never seen a photo of you without a huge smile, and that says a lot.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-76694005567545647802013-05-12T20:29:40.144-04:002013-05-12T20:29:40.144-04:00Your story, unfortunately , is more common than yo...Your story, unfortunately , is more common than you think. It helps to write about it...good therapy. Since I was a teacher I encountered cases like this. You seem to have been able to find yourself and come to terms with yourself. The struggle is never over. The challenge is always there. Thanks for a very good post.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-75965378016061891472013-05-12T20:29:21.595-04:002013-05-12T20:29:21.595-04:00Yes, i'm where I belong now! :)Yes, i'm where I belong now! :)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-84859235035273187012013-05-12T20:29:06.851-04:002013-05-12T20:29:06.851-04:00No one gets through life unscathed, do they? ;)No one gets through life unscathed, do they? ;)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-70700845126036786122013-05-12T20:28:50.187-04:002013-05-12T20:28:50.187-04:00You've done great too and it's nice to see...You've done great too and it's nice to see how close and loving your family is! :)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-74238032919762357152013-05-12T20:28:12.242-04:002013-05-12T20:28:12.242-04:00I spent my whole childhood in a state of dissociat...I spent my whole childhood in a state of dissociation, and I read a LOT of books. But it's all worked out very well in the end. It has been a long tough road, though, and I feel for your hubby. So not easy. We are lucky to have loving, supportive spouses!!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-50127021761646416342013-05-12T20:27:17.458-04:002013-05-12T20:27:17.458-04:00Thanks John! Made my Mum-in-law supper and she was...Thanks John! Made my Mum-in-law supper and she was very happy! That helps a lot. Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-46825887791289242432013-05-12T20:26:54.412-04:002013-05-12T20:26:54.412-04:00While i'm not happy you had issues with you Mu...While i'm not happy you had issues with you Mum too, I am glad to know I have a kindred spirit out there. ;) Hope your kitties gave you lots of Mother's Day loving!Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-36403430960237734332013-05-12T20:26:13.763-04:002013-05-12T20:26:13.763-04:00I'm a tough little survivor! ;) And my Dad rea...I'm a tough little survivor! ;) And my Dad really loved me. Thank you for the kind works, Ahab.<br /><br />My dog Sophie gave me the gift of rolling in a dead thing. I just finished giving her a Mother's Day bath! :)Knatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-13910444449702954902013-05-12T19:39:45.752-04:002013-05-12T19:39:45.752-04:00There are dark things behind many a smile, that...There are dark things behind many a smile, that's for sure.Andrew MacLaren-Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01275686573421308677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-44731754181837482792013-05-12T16:07:32.539-04:002013-05-12T16:07:32.539-04:00I am truly sorry that you had such a bad time of i...I am truly sorry that you had such a bad time of it - and I respect and admire your honesty. You survived and life is good, with your gorgeous Gordon and all your furry and feathery babies. That's what matters.Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18218332259187330304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-69482282559458560492013-05-12T16:01:01.347-04:002013-05-12T16:01:01.347-04:00I had a hard relationship with my dad,and knew whe... I had a hard relationship with my dad,and knew when I became a mom, that how I lived my life would be a huge influence on my children. If there is one thing I thank him for it is that lesson. My mother made up for his lack of responsibility so I never feel like I really suffered. Like you with your mom, I always figured he did the best he could with all his flaws but unfortunately it cemented my lack of respect for him. I do appreciate his sense of humour though that he passed on to me. That way, we were alike. Loved a good joke, he did. We really are only responsible for ourselves and have such little control over others. That being said, enjoy your MIL and carry on. As far as I can see, you've done great. hugs, Deb Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06817710263282488135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10685986.post-64401721316017930652013-05-12T15:46:39.718-04:002013-05-12T15:46:39.718-04:00Hubby came from much the same environment, and the...Hubby came from much the same environment, and the stories he tells are incredible.<br />Hats off to you for persevering and making your life a success.<br />And YOU are one fabulous pet Mama!Katnip Loungehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276522333751867680noreply@blogger.com